My son’s turkey he made at school.
Yesterday, the counselor from my son’s school called me. Granted, the kids are out for the Thanksgiving holiday so It threw me for a loop when his school’s phone number popped up on my caller ID. I seriously thought they were calling to let me know that my son had missed too many days and I was in trouble. Even though I know Thanksgiving is Thursday and that he is out of school this week. I have the whole mind thing playing me right now, FOR REAL! J
The actual reason the counselor was calling was to see if my son’s father had been involved in his life. See, when my son started head start, on the application they asked you if there are any needs that need to be met for you and the child’s sake. For example:
- Education (If you wanted to go back to school or college)
- Parenting classes
- Father Involvement
- And the list goes on….
Anything you can think of to help better you and your child it was on that application. So, of course, I wrote on his application Father Involvement. Also, in the summary I wrote, “He only comes around for Father’s Day and may call for his birthday. I have approached him every time I get a chance to talk to him (when he does call) but it doesn’t do any good.” So from my application, the counselor was just doing a follow-up call to see if anything has changed since I filled out the application.
After she asked me that, I chuckled and said no. I told her the same thing I wrote on my application. I also told her that he did text me a few days after my son started school to let me know that he was going to be more involved in his life and he was going to come to the school. He said he was going to start picking him up from school and everything, BUT that was all it ended up being was a text. A text message that is just taking up space on my memory of my cell phone.
After that, the counselor told me that she didn’t have no advice for me and that it seems to her that I have taken several initiatives to reach out and make him be involved more. I told her that you can’t make a man be a dad. She said that they have different activities for the children to do with their fathers at the head start (which I knew already), but all you can do is tell him to come to the school and he doesn’t come he won’t know. Which, I agreed and told her that I wasn’t running behind him anymore and I wasn’t calling him for everything anymore. After that, we had a little more small talk and then that was the end of the call.
It is a very sad situation when a man won’t take the time to come see how their child is doing overall. Not just at school, but check in at least once or twice a week. Especially, if the child can talk. My son talks very well and can hold a very good conversation. It’s going to be about trains, trucks, or cartoons, but at least call to see what’s going on with him.
I understand that I can’t put a gun to his head and make him do it due to state laws but I sure wish we had our own laws as well. It should be a crime to not interact with your child so many hours every two weeks and if that child’s father disobeys he has to pay a fine. I wanted to say we get to KICK HIS A** but that’s a battery charge and the court system won’t stand for that either. Boy if it did, I do believe they would have a line wrap around the whole building with every proud momma waiting her turn.
Happy Thanksgiving and be safe on the highways! J
My son’s Thanksgiving handprint turkey. I thought this was so adorable.